How-To: Show Your Personality In Your Dating Profile
When you’re using dating sites for sex, you HAVE to stand out. This is one of the most important things you can do on a hookup site, because this is the way you’re going to get women to go out with you, rather than going out with those other guys.
There are a lot of men on dating sites, and all of them spend time on their profiles. They are successful or failures to varying degrees, but they all have a few things in common.
You don’t need to show your life story.
A lot of guys make the mistake of thinking that “showing your personality” is the same thing as “talking a lot.” You don’t need to spill your guts on a profile page to make a woman take notice.
In fact, being concise can be a great way to actually attract attention. Don’t be one of the men who has to brag constantly about the things he’s done, or the places he’s been. Being yourself and being authentic (while still maintaining a good air about yourself) will go a long way towards making women want to contact you.
In general, if a site asks you to fill in a few things about yourself in a certain section, limit yourself to three. That’s about a good amount if you want to make sure you’re representing yourself well, while still leaving something to the imagination.
Focus on current events, not the past.
We don’t mean you should have several paragraphs on Stephen Harper, but you should focus on your own current events, rather than the things that were important to you several years ago.
Don’t worry about looking young or cool.
One of the saddest things to watch is a man who’s trying desperately to be cool strike out again and again. This is a man that’s worthy of pity, and it’s not someone that a woman is going to want to go home with.
Don’t focus on your glory days, whenever they were. Your glory days should be NOW, as far as a woman who wants to sleep with you is concerned. Don’t worry about anything that’s happened before—it’s old news, and the only person who cares about it is you.
Show your personality in pictures.
When you’re seeking for sex, you might think the best thing to do in pictures is to show a lot of skin. Our studies and most women we’ve talked to agree: this JUST DOESN’T WORK.
Instead, show what kind of man you are through your photographs. We don’t mean that you should show a whole range of emotions on your face or anything, either.
Show at least a few photographs of you DOING things. Smiling, turned slightly to the left, and in a pressed clean suit is great for a profile photograph. If you have more than one of those, however, you’re going to look monotonous at best and narcissistic at worst.
When you list your interests, limit it to three. Show a couple more through your photos. Have a picture of you doing an outdoor sport, or in front of a house you just paid off, or taking part in some volunteer work.
Just don’t have all your photos be of the same thing. You want to draw her attention, and the best way to interest a woman is by being interesting.