Whether you have just discovered a fetish life or you have been active in your local kink scene for years, there are some fetishes that just seem to be magnets for the best sex or the most fun women. Knowing where to start looking will turn up a large pool of women who want to date and are more than willing to take risks in the bedroom.
The best thing about looking for dates in the kink and fetish community is that you’re already there to talk about sex. Nobody’s going to think you’re too forward if you’re bringing up blindfolds or group sex on the first date – that’s expected of you. It’s also a community that’s much more tolerant of casual sex than most of the women you’ll meet in bars or in line at Tim Horton’s. It’s hard to go wrong dating in the fetish community – as long as you know what you’re into.
Cuckolding is a great fetish if you’re trying to get your foot in the door. Yes, there are guys out there who love knowing that their girlfriend is out somewhere with some other guy! If you manage to get in good with this kind of lady, you are in a great position if all you want is some fun in the bedroom without any commitment. The lady who dates a cuckolding fetishist is probably more worried that you’ll fall for her! She’ll breathe a sigh of relief knowing you’re just in it for the sex.
If you’re not already involved in your local kink scene, you really should be. There’s a wealth of swingers, polyamorous ladies, and women in open relationships just waiting to have some fun with you. The key is to become known in the community as a gentleman who is clean, respectful, and up for anything. That is the kind of reputation that will get you phone calls asking if you’re interested in an anonymous orgy this weekend, and what kind of guy doesn’t want to get a call like that?
Hang around the local “munches” – these are group lunches in public locations where people who are interested in new fetishes and long-time community members get together and socialize. It’s a great way to meet new people and learn about new kinds of sex. Don’t put yourself out there as more advanced than you are – that’s a great way to get a reputation as a creep. Instead, be sincerely interested and you’ll soon find yourself invited to private sex parties where you can watch and even join in a variety of sex scenes.
Consider learning the ropes of basic BDSM if you don’t already know how to tie a lady up so she enjoys it, how to use a flogger, and so on. Many women are interested in learning a little bit about kinky sex but don’t know where to start. Once you’re comfortable with the activities and terminology, you’re all set to become their expert.
There are women out there who are into all the things you’re into, including casual sex without strings attached. Knowing what to look for means you can make sure you’re in the right place at the right time for all kinds of fun.