Fetishes and kinks are parts of sexuality that can often be intimidating either because you’re inexperienced or you’re not sure if you’re into them. The thing is, kinks are a healthy part of sex and can make time spent in the bedroom incredible. You don’t have to be into heavy BDSM or whips and chains to enjoy kinks. These days, they sell vibrators at drug stores since they are so common in the bedroom. So what are you missing out on? If you haven’t tried anything kinky in bed, do it now.
Here are some basic “starter” kinks that you will probably have lots of fun with. They’re relatively common, so asking a girl if she’s into some experimentation will probably excite her. You need to feel confident in your ability to try new things, so don’t shy away. Believe us, you’re not going to be the freakiest guy in Canada if you indulge in a little harmless sexy role-play.
Often reserved for ill behaved children, spanking is a turn-on because of the disciplinary repercussions and physical stimulation. It’s a little humiliating, and that’s part of the kink – your girl has broken a rule and has to be “punished.” Spanking can be a good time and a good way to build up to other things. If the woman you’re experimenting with has a kinky streak, she might get off on being a “bad” girl and need to be disciplined on a regular basis. Before you attempt any kink with a woman, be clear about what she’s expecting and wants. Ask her if she wants to use spanking (or at least try) since foreplay will lead to intercourse. Maybe she just wants to play a little bit, so just make sure you stay on the same page.
Most women own a vibrator – it’s a fact of life. Why not join the fun and use a vibrator on the woman you’re hooking up with? The beauty of toys is that they also allow you to get some extra information about your girl’s body and what she enjoys. A good way to progress along the kink learning curve is to start by focusing on her. She probably has a good idea of what toys she likes and uses, and she can clue you in pretty quickly. If you like it, you might even want to take the next step and have her use something on you.
Another oldie but goodie – role-playing. One of the key elements to making role-play hot and enjoyable is to choose a scenario you both find sexy. For example, the traditional maid and employer is always a fallback, but try for something more tailored to your shared interests. For example, if you’re really into a particular story or a scene in a film, recreate it. You can also use scenarios that you choose from other fetishes and kinks you may have, such as voyeurism. If you enjoy voyeurism, you could try to set up a role-playing scene where you’re a peeping tom who’s been caught. Scenarios based on mutual fantasies is what really makes role-playing hot.