“Let her lead and make you feel good”

When you’re single and dating, you’re probably going to run into all types of women. There’s a common misconception that if you’re not the one calling the shots in the bedroom then it means you’re the weaker sex. But we can tell you from experience that could not be further from the truth. In fact, we’d go so far to say that submissive men are probably stronger than most men in general. It takes a lot to swallow your pride and let a woman lead, but when you do, the results are out of this world.

What Is Femdom Anyway?

That’s an easy answer to that question. Femdom simply means that the female is dominant during sex, or maybe even in the relationship if that’s what you’re into. Okay, so maybe you have Googled “femdom” and came back with some startling results, but femdom isn’t all whips, latex, and patent leather. Actually, it’s none of those things if that isn’t what you want. When you decide that you want to experience femdom, the first thing your female dom (or domme) is going to do is talk to you about what you want and what you don’t want. In other words, her goal is to find out what are your limits.

“Some women have femdom fetish”

The great thing about femdom is that you choose well in advance what you’d like to experience. Your dom isn’t going to force anything on you that you aren’t okay with. To be certain of this, your dom is going to require that you come up with a safe word that you can utter whenever you’re feeling uncomfortable or even afraid. Depending on how you arrange things, saying the safe word can stop all your sexual interactions or it can just let her know to stop doing whatever it is she’s doing to you and move onto something else. Any good dom, regardless of how comfortable you are with her, is going to require that you have a safe word, especially if you’re new to the world of femdom.

Are You Weird for Liking Femdom?

No way. Look, you’re probably handling a hundred things at once. You have to work, pay bills, and countless other responsibilities that fall solely on your shoulders. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to give up some of your control to a woman who can give you exactly what you want. While she may be the one pushing you and your willing body to the limits, it’s really you who’s calling the shots. Even if she has you on your knees begging for more—and she probably will—she’s doing it because you want her to, so who’s really controlling whom?

Femdom is great, and it can be an exciting new experience for you, but there are still a few things you need to be on the lookout for. Websites like Maxfisch and Femdomchat.ca are great to find femdoms, but you still need to be aware of some things before you take that submissive plunge. Femdom always involves communication and if you hook up with your dom and she gets to work without asking you any questions, you need to end things right away. While we would suggest meeting with an experienced dom, if you’re already dating someone and thinking about femdom, research femdom with your lady and learn the ropes—and how to tie them—together.