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Looking for relationships is just as hard as looking for a hookup. In fact, in many ways, it’s more difficult. You have to impress a woman enough that she wants to keep you around for a long time, and not just until the sunrise makes her think it was a bad idea.
We’ve been there as well. Some of us are in a committed relationship, and others have been in the past. We know how difficult it can be to not only get a woman interested, but to make sure that she STAYS interested in you for the long haul of it.
Our tips aren’t just for hookups.
Yes, looking for a girlfriend isn’t the same thing as looking for a hookup. However, a lot of the same principles apply, especially at first, on or before the first date.
You’re not looking for just a night of sex, so you can stop being quite so stressed about the way things are going on the first date. That’s a huge advantage in your favor. If you mess up completely, you might still be able to salvage a second date.
Hookup dates are much more immediately judgmental. With a hookup date, you always have to believe that you have an hour or two, maybe less, maybe more, to make your entire impression.
Dating is a little more forgiving.
Part of the reason dating is a bit easier than hooking up is because you’ll get second and third chances, depending on the woman you’re seeing. Most women know that men get nervous on the first date, and they’re willing to cut a guy a little slack.
On a hookup date, by contrast, you only have a few hours, and you have to completely “sell” yourself by then. Otherwise, you’re going home alone, and you’re probably not going to get a second date to try again with this woman who’s already said no.
Dating tip #1: Dating requires more honesty.
Please note that we’re not saying you should lie at any point on a date. There’s nothing worse than being caught in a lie, and even if you think it’s bulletproof, you might accidentally slip and reveal something that outs you or your lie in some small way.
But with hookups, there’s a certain amount of stretching the truth that’s allowable, and even easily overlooked. You’re supposed to be putting out a certain persona, especially if you don’t usually sleep around with women from hookup sites very often.
For example, if you’re a server at a restaurant, you can just say, “I work in a restaurant,” or if you’re the teller at a bank, you can say, “I work in finance.” You can leave a little bit of mystery without having to go into too much brutally honest detail.
When you’re dating, however, you do have to go into that brutally honest detail. This woman needs to know what she’s getting into, and hearing vague answers and roundabout avoidances makes her think that you have something terrible to hide.
Dating Tip #2: Show your personality.
Here’s a tip about hookups: the women who are looking for hookups are pretty much looking for one type of man, and only one type of man. They’re looking for the suave, confident, George Clooney type of man that will give them the night of their lives.
Women looking for dates are much more enthusiastic about meeting all kinds of men. After all, what’s fun for the moment is probably not going to be fun all the time.
How else do you explain why grocery stores sell kale and brown rice when brownies exist? A brownie might be good for the moment when a woman is feeling naughty, but in the long run, she’s going to want something that’s more substantial.
The more you show your personality, the more you’re going to wind up meeting the kinds of women you want to meet. You want to find a woman with similar interests to yours, right? The easiest way to do that is to make sure that your interests are displayed easily, right on your profile, so that any woman who’s looking at your profile to see if she’s interested will see right away what she’d be getting herself into.
Dating Tip #3: It’s about quality, not quantity.
When you’re looking to hook up, you want to contact all the women you can find. After all, if you’re only meeting up with a woman for one night, she’d better have a lot of friends, or you’d better have a few more waiting in the wings for next week.
Otherwise, you’re going to wind up alone pretty often. Hookups don’t have a great shelf life.
With dating, this isn’t the case. You can, after all, be with the same woman for years and years if you’re in a happy relationship. This is why we suggest you be more specific in your profile for just dating, rather than your profile for only hooking up.
Yes, you’ll get fewer responses if you’re more open about your interests and the things that you are passionate about. Women who are looking for love are pickier than the ones who are just looking for sex.
However, the ones that DO read your entire profile, hobbies and interests and everything, and still decide to message you…those are the women you want to meet.
It’s riskier to show a woman a lot of personal things about yourself, but that’s how you meet the women who want you FOR those qualities, instead of IN SPITE of them.
We’re not saying that you need to have your life’s story and everything you enjoy all laid out on these pages, after all. You want to keep some element of mystery to yourself initially.
A good rule of thumb is that you should imagine yourself going out on a date with a woman, and talking about your interests. There should be at least three things you can talk about that she won’t be able to respond, “Yes, I know, I read that on your profile” to.
Dating can be difficult, but we CAN help you out. Browse through our list of tips and guides, and you’ll soon see just how easy it can be to meet someone special. For even more advice, follow our blog.