So you have got your eye on a new girl online, or out at the bar or coffee shop, and want to catch her attention. But how on earth should you go about it? And how can you make sure that her attention stays on you? It’s less complicated that you’re dreading, believe us.

Use Your Brain

Just like when trying to escape a rampaging wild animal, your brain is your best asset and a shotgun is not your second best. So, charm her with your humor – everyone loves to laugh. If you don’t have one to begin with, don’t worry, there are ways to improve on your skills. Watch funny television shows and movies, read funny articles – don’t steal their material, but approach it like a scientific study. What’s making you laugh? Make notes, and practice. Don’t always go for mean-spirited humor. The guy that has the whole room laughing is much more fondly remembered than the bully who has the whole room laughing at some poor soul. And never, ever make her the target of any cutting jokes, at least until you get to know each other better. And even then, some people just don’t like being poked fun at. They may need to lighten up, but you can change up the jokes to something that they can enjoy for weeks, months, or even years to come.

“Ask her out for a date in a different way”

Even if your sense of humor is hopeless, you can go for the intellectual route. If your field of interest is limited to sports teams, automobile repair, and other things that don’t tend to appeal to most ladies, consider branching out. Pick a topic you’d like to learn more about. Politics is a dangerous and divisive one, but things like art, literature, and science are perfectly safe, and have many sub-fields that you can browse through to find something that really fascinates you. Don’t try bluffing your knowledge on something; lies are never a good basis for a relationship, and if she doesn’t find you out someone overhearing then you might. With the Internet at your fingertips, there’s no reason for you not to be as well-read as you’re willing to put forth the effort.

Be Confident

“Keep her interested in you by being confident”

That’s “confident”, not “pompous”, “inconsiderate”, or “a jerk”. Don’t stare at her dating site profile thinking that she will message you; message her first. Don’t mumble questions into your chest when out with her, look her in the eyes and speak clearly. If you go into it assuming that she won’t be interested, what chance will you have?

Let Her Know You’re Interested

It may seem obvious to you that you’d like to get to know her better and see where a relationship could go, but she only knows what you tell her. If you had a wonderful time out with her, be sure to text or message her saying so – and ask her out again! Don’t be overly persistent – bugging her several times a week for dates is out – but let her know that her time is definitely in demand. It’s sure to keep you on her mind.