We have all been there: you set up a date with a beautiful woman you’re dying to hook up with. She looks amazing on the date and all you can think about is getting her back to your place, hoping that she feels it too. She’s so hot she could warm up a Canadian winter… but then, things start to go wrong. You sit down for dinner, accidentally spilling your drink on her, then the food is terrible, then the conversation gets stilted. There are any number of things that can go wrong on a first date which seem promising, but maybe there’s a reason you’re desperate to salvage it. Some women are just too hot to be let go of without a little effort, or maybe there was just something about her you particularly liked. Whatever the reason, although it’s difficult, it is possible for a confident, mature man to smooth over the initial awkwardness. The best you can do is set yourself up for a second chance, but you have to get her to agree to it first.
Assessing Date Failure
If the woman seemed perfect and you liked her, then why did the date fail? There can be a lot of reasons behind this since everyone is different, but there are two major errors that come up a lot: external events and internal events. External events are based on things out of your control, such as the restaurant having a rude staff or cold food. Internal events are ones that have to do with you and your date’s chemistry. Is it just off? Not working? If you have absolutely no chemistry with a woman, believe us, it’s not going to magically materialize once you get her into bed. However, before assuming it’s hopeless, there may be other factors at work. Were you nervous? Was she nervous? Think long and hard about how you were personally approaching the situation. If there’s something you realize you need to change, such as your attitude, then you have found the problem.
On the other hand, external problems are easier to fix. If the venue where you went out was subpar, then go out and seek a new venue. Go the extra step and do something completely different! If you took her for dinner and drinks and it was a disaster, don’t just choose a different restaurant for your second date, choose a completely different activity altogether.
How to Get Another Chance
Once you figure out why the date originally went awry, now is the time to contact her. Be up front about the fact that the date was awkward. Admit that there was something wrong. Don’t pretend like you had a good time if you didn’t. Follow this admission, with the fact that you’re attracted to her or enjoyed her company (keep it classy, even if you’re just interested in hooking up), and she if she says yes, then you could both end up with a wonderful future date. If she feels the same way – she liked you, but the date was awkward – she’ll be willing to give it another try.