“Try new positions to add spice to your sex life”

Maybe she’s read 50 Shades of Grey, maybe she’s just bored of the same old thing all the time, or maybe you’re the one who’s bored. Either way, it doesn’t take much to liven up your love life and impress her with your skills and creativity.

Let’s start with a simple blindfold. It may seem a little basic, but a blindfold is actually a great place to start. It requires her to trust you. For her, a blindfold means that she doesn’t know what’s coming, so every sensation is exaggerated. A touch between her legs or breath on her nipple gets twice as much reaction. For you, it means the pressure is off to look good while you’re feeling good. We all have certain positions that feel great but can look awkward or result in squinty facial expressions. A blindfold means you don’t have to think about it.

Softly Tied Up

Everybody’s familiar with the fuzzy handcuffs, but even fuzzy handcuffs are really uncomfortable. It’s much better to start out with a soft material that won’t make her uncomfortable; the last thing you want to do is give her a reason to stop early. You probably don’t have any silk scarves hanging around, but if you’ve got a silk tie, that will probably impress her. Other than that, anything soft will do. Tie with a twist between the wrists and make sure when you lay her down that she’s not going to lose circulation.

Let Her Think She is in Control

“Give her the control as you lie down and enjoy”

Once you’ve gotten all the mileage you can out of tying her up, consider letting her tie you up instead. It only looks like you’re at her mercy – in reality, it means she’s going to be doing all the work, you no longer have to worry about whether she’s gotten off yet, and she leaves feeling satisfied and powerful, yet impressed with your vulnerability and honesty. Basically, it’s catnip to a woman who wants to think she’s made someone powerful weak beneath her. As a bonus, if she blindfolds you, you can think about anything you want while she’s fucking you and she won’t know.

Role-Play Away

If that breaches your comfort zone, you might consider some role-playing. Though, not the cheap nurse costume kind, that has its place in the bedroom. Why not spend an entire date “in character?” You plan a place and a time, show up separately, and flirt like you’ve just met for the first time. A lot of women seem to need permission to liven up a bit. Once you’re introducing yourself as a superspy or a millionaire and she’s introducing herself as a supermodel, suddenly she’s interesting in doing a lot more than she’d originally planned on – and you can refer back to the rest of this article for suggestions.

There are tons of places you can go from here because role-playing is a great gateway into other kinks – spanking, three ways, public sex etc. The sky’s the limit.