In the bedroom, it’s not uncommon for the woman’s libido to fizzle out before her man’s. If you have encountered this issue, don’t stress about it. She might just be too stressed or have a naturally lower libido than you; testosterone is a driving force in libido, and women naturally have more estrogen than men. It doesn’t mean that she doesn’t love what you are doing; it just means that you have to approach the sex issue a little differently; think of sex as a sport. Before you go to the bedroom next time, try out one of these techniques to get her in the mood for love.
The misconception about sexting is that it’s only for inexperienced teenagers. The busy couple doesn’t have time to sit around talking dirty to each other all day, so using the cell phone to get a naughty message across saves you potentially awkward dialogue as well as letting her know what you are in the mood for. Shoot her a text in the middle of a long workday telling her exactly what you want to do to her when you get home. It’s embarrassing at first, but don’t spare any of the dirty details. The mental image will be something for her to think about for the rest of the day while she waits, adding to the anticipation of seeing you. If she responds with something dirty in return, then you know you’re on the right track. Keep it up for as long as you can but try not to get caught sexting at work.
If the whole sexting thing isn’t working out, try stimulating her in different ways. The best way to get a girl in the mood if she wasn’t beforehand is to use sex toys or massages. You may feel like you aren’t doing your job as a man if you have to resort to toys, but she doesn’t see it that way, it seems like a romantic effort to increase intimacy. A high-speed vibrator will do more for her than your fingers, and she’ll be begging for you in no time. Take a trip to your local sex shop with her and let her shop around. Toys can get pricey, so use your rainy day fund on a sexy shopping spree. Would you rather shell out a chunk of change to help boost her libido or feel disappointed every time you get on top of her and she isn’t in the mood?
For a woman, foreplay is often more important (and more enjoyable) than the sex. Penetration may feel different for women than it does for you, so remember to enhance it in different ways. If you want to make her happy, take your time during foreplay instead of rushing into the actual sex. Go down on her, finger her, use different toys, and do whatever she enjoys, asking her along the way. Making her reach orgasm before you go inside her will make her infinitely more sensitive and responsive, helping her climax again, much sooner than she normally would.