Reheating an old romance is a tricky process that requires a man capable of deft social maneuvering to pull it off. Though some situations are more precarious than others, you may have not met any women lately that strike your fancy. It may seem like you’re searching the entire country of Canada – nay, the continent, to find a decent girl – to find someone who appeals to you. Search no further if that old flame is back in town or is close enough for you to get in contact with. There are situations where this can be a very bad or very good idea, depending on your circumstances and your history together. Take our advice on a few mistakes and good decisions we have made over the years about reuniting with old flames for a decent hookup.
When it’s a Good Idea
Whether you should rekindle a past romance and hook up with a woman should be based completely on how you left things with her. If you had a friend with benefits at some point that left and has now returned, that’s the perfect opportunity for a hookup. You might have dated off and on for a while, but you always had amazing sex and she’s interested in a casual thing. Just clear it with her before anything happens. Basically, any type of past relationship where casual sex worked and there wasn’t drama is a good candidate for a hookup.
When it’s a Bad Idea
One word: ex-girlfriends. Although it seems like an obvious choice – who better to hook up with than your ex? Never hook up with a woman you were in a serious relationship with, even if your break-up wasn’t dramatic. If you were serious with a woman, that history is never going to cease in meaningfulness. She might claim to be okay with it, but that could change at any given moment. In theory, she may say she’s into casual sex, but in reality, when she finds out you’re sleeping with lots of other women, she may get angry and negativity will ensue. It’s always a bad idea to go back to your ex for basic needs.
Taking the First Step
When you’ve found a woman who seems like a good candidate for a casual hookup and you think she’s into you, now is the time to make your move. Let’s take the example of a woman moving back to town. First of all, you don’t need a serious reason to reconnect with a girl who you haven’t seen in a while. Even if you were only casually hooking up with her, as long as the relationship remained amicable, there’s no harm in calling her up to say hello. She probably has some idea of why you’re contacting her, but don’t bring it up immediately. See if she brings up your past first and then see if she is interested in continuing. Hooking up with old flames that you had a relaxed, friendly relationship with, can be a great, hassle-free way to find sex.